My Rebuttal

I received some slack over the Grazia story, so I've decided to post my rebuttal here, rather than individually...

Firstly, let me say that the original story was written just about me and my plight to get pregnant in Sydney, using donor sperm from the United States. I had breakfast with the journalist in NY...her asking me questions and a tape recorder taping us. I know she would have all the facts straight, but when it was sent to the magazine, they reworded it and also added another woman's story. In doing so, at least one of the most important facts, was omitted.

It doesn't matter how whether the donor has had zero pregnancies, or five, since January 1st 2010, the New South Wales Government has COMPLETELY banned the importation of donor sperm into the state. The closest "state" to me, is Canberra, as it's not part of NSW, and, the fertility clinic I am a patient of here, is affiliated with a clinic there.

I would like to point out that anyone who knows me, knows I'm far from "selfish"... in all aspects of my life. However, being called selfish because I want to do everything in my power to have a baby, is, probably correct. Deciding to get pregnant and have children is all about the parent(s) and not about the child. You have kids for you, not for them, so you have someone to love unconditionally and to (hopefully) love you the same way. Women want to experience pregnancy...this is not being selfish, it's just life. The same as some people want to ride a roller coaster, or scuba dive...for the experience...and after they've done it once and loved it, they want to do it again.

The fact that when I have my baby, he/she wont know the biological father, isn't selfish. The baby will grow up in a loving environment with a lot of male role models. Unfortunately there are enough kids around whose parents divorced and the father has disappeared from their lives altogether. I believe this is worse than never knowing. I have a girl friend who has three kids and her ex husband, who left when the youngest was only one, NEVER sees the kids.

I'm able to do a couple more rounds of IVF, one of which needs to be successful. You all know I'll post here when I start again, and until then, I'll keep you up to date with the rest of my life...

N x

March Update

I spoke to the Fertility Clinic today and I've moved up the list from number 25 to number 20. I was under the impression, well, they gave me the impression last year, that this going to Canberra thing and all that went with it, had been sorted out. Apparently, not so much...

My last conversation (last year) with one of the nurses was that I could use the same donor as I'd used the previous times and I wouldn't have to go through the process of choosing another baby daddy...which also involves having to have a Notary stamp and sign the forms. The last time I did it, it was a bit awkward because I had to explain what it was that needed his very expensive signature.

Apparently all the fertility clinics in New South Wales are in the same predicament, so there's no point in me looking to change Doctor/clinic. I was told I'm in the first batch and will be called, hopefully next week, with details of a new cryobank from which to choose a donor. Because of the new laws, the cryobank they were using doesn't meet the criteria. It is, oddly enough, a ok for the girls in the US, is one of the largest and regarded as one of the top sperm banks in the world...go figure.

I'll be going online in the not too distant future to internet "date" to look for an appropriate donor and I'll be going to Canberra for treatment.

And by the way, they didn't know about the Grazia story, so when I told the nurse, she promptly sent someone out to buy the mag...

N x

You Asked For It

Here's the Grazia article....

My Fifteen Minutes

The article is in THIS WEEK'S GRAZIA magazine. The one with Sandra Bullock (poor Sandra) on the cover. Page 40, in case you need help finding it.

The photo shoot was fun, and I was thankful that no one I knew was at the beach at the exact time we were there, because I was feeling VERY self conscious...wearing too much make up and posing are two things that don't come naturally to me.

Read, enjoy and let me know what you think...

Oh, and I apologize to my readers who live outside Australia and can't get Grazia. I'm going to scan the article and post it so no one misses out.

N x

NEXT...

I met a guy I've known for a very long time. Well, we met a long time ago, but haven't seen him in 20 something years. He's been emailing and texting me over the past few days, asking whether I wanted to meet for a drink or dinner. His initial email actually said, and I quote

"Are you available for coffee or a feed?"

Yes, this may be construed as a red flag, but in my eyes, this wasn't a date and I have no desire to take it any further than friendship (not sure about his modus operandi). In my reply I told him I'm not a farm animal, but would be willing to see him at the restaurant of my choosing. He apologized for his poor choice of words and agreed on the place and time

A wine bar has opened in the last couple of weeks up the road from me and I've been wanting to try it, so that's where we went. He was already there when I arrived (points for being on time) and was sitting at a table, which was good, because the place is tiny and there was not a spare seatto be had. He asked me if I'd choose a wine...I asked if red was ok, he said yes. As I was looking at the wine list, he mentioned that it would be better if I could choose a medium priced wine...fine...I'm not being judgmental.

Next we ordered a pizza. Good for sharing, especially for me and my germophobia. I have an issue when I share dishes with people, even good friends and they use their cutlery to dish out the food. To me it's the same as double dipping. So, pizza was a good choice. The waitress (am I still allowed to use this word?) came to the table with the wine and two glasses. He poured himself first...

Here's the next red flag...the pizza arrived and, guess what, he SERVED HIMSELF FIRST. Is it mean of me to find this very very wrong, whether it's a friend or something more???

I know a few of my friends have their own thoughts on me and my singleness. They think I'm too fussy and my standards are unreasonably high. Maybe they're right, but I don't want to be with a guy who has no manners...there's a list, but this is what I'm talking about right now.

Grazia

At 8am tomorrow my apartment is going to be buzzing with Grazia peeps. They are coming over to do my hair and makeup and then we're going somewhere (not telling), to take my pics for the article that's being written about me, this blog and my plight to have a baby...

I'll let you know how it went...

N x